Feeling Frustrated?
How’s your journey going so far….?
Do you feel stuck….?
Results aren’t coming fast enough….?
Are you losing weight but gaining it back….?
Are you losing your inspiration….?
Are you feeling lost within the process….?
Feeling frustrated…?
Be honest, is this how you are currently feeling? We all go through it. Whenever we bring on a new habit or lifestyle change we always start with the intent of a long term change. Are you someone who struggles with this? Are you able to stick to your new routine? Are you someone who starts off burning hot, doing everything perfectly and then after 14-21 days starts to slow down. That once big ball of burning motivation/inspiration/purpose is now quickly melting like a snowball….
Why do we do this ?! The “yo-yo’ing”, up and down, hot then cool, inspired then discouraged, eating good then eating crap, rested then tired, in pain to being in pain again…. know wonder you’re frustrated, its exhausting living like that! So whats the underlining issue?…
IDENTITY SHIFT
Your external and internal self are working against each other. Externally you start off by working out, eating right, going to bed on time, etc… but that only lasts for so long if you have not done the internal work.
Changing your internal self means you must change the way you think and feel about things. If you are still doubting the method, or not educating yourself on exactly what and why you are doing something, thats when the struggle begins. You cannot keep the same old philosophies and beliefs and bring on a new way of living and expect to get the results that you want. These old beliefs and poor habits is what got you sick and in pain to begin with. If you want something to change, you need to do it whole heartedly. It really is an identity shift.
If you are feeling frustrated because you feel that results aren’t coming fast enough, maybe you’re someone who is fixated on quick gratification? Do you have a hard time with the concept of long term gratification?
I was. I am someone who likes results fast. I lived in the fantasy that my life could be like Mary Poppins who would snap her fingers and the whole messy bedroom was cleaned with a *SNAP*. Oh how I wish that was true! Unfortunately thats not life. We must do the work. Not only do we need to work on the external self we need to change our identity in order to change your behavior.
The reasons why you may not be progressing is because of the identity you’re giving yourself currently. It’s not because you don’t have the tools, you’re just not absorbing the tools…make sense? Maybe your mindset is that you’re just an “average person”, that “learning some physiology concepts is just too hard”, “ I’m a lazy person”…. this is not the identity of a person who accomplishes their goals or improves there environment.
People who change their life and become leaders to their family and community absorb themselves in their tools and the internal and external self work unitedly. These people eat, sleep, breathe, their identity. They know why and how they are going to accomplish their task or lifestyle.
However this shift in identity doesn’t happen over night. We need to take things on slowly, one habit at a time. Stop rushing the process, and enjoy the feeling of getting healthier. Allow your mind and body to repair itself. Except and be ok with the thought that, what you may have thought was truth, may not have been. Now, excepting that fact doesn’t mean that you’re an idiot and that you failed. NOT AT ALL! What actually happened is you have data. You now know that whatever it was that you were doing, or eating, it just wasn’t right for your body, and you need to try something else. It’s not a situation that you need to judge yourself over. Take a mental note and move on. Life is so much happier when we live life that way.
So if you are feeling frustrated with where you are currently, reach out to your friend, coach, or mentor, explain how you’re feeling and ask for feedback. It takes courage, but I believe in you. Sit back and reflect if you need to take some time and allow your internal self to catch up to your external self. Take on that identity shift.